Labels.

I was once told to not try and label things. To enjoy what was going on at the moment. To not let myself be guided by what people said or thought and that everyone had different opinions. At the time it made a lot of sense, and actually it can be applied in many situations. Examples come in many shapes and sizes: choosing a job, choosing a career, making a roadtrip, I won't make a long list so I'll just say decisions in general, and with decisions come people. When you're first dating someone, for example, everyone wants to know where you're at. And the truth is nobody has to. Nobody but you and the person you're dating that is. But obviously there always comes a time when you have to ask for advice and everyone will try to know and decide what's best for you, after all, they are your friends and loved ones. So I was once in that situation. Truth is I am in love. I wish I wasn't, I wish things were different, but they are not. I've been in love for more than two years with the same guy. Which sounds amazing.... If we were actually in a healthy relationship, or in a relationship at all. That last statement totally changed your perception on my two year sentence right? You see, here is where labels come in. We started dating for a while and things were going great, the problem was that things stayed the same, we weren't going anywhere, and the most probable thing is that they never will. No people, LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. It is enough at first but you have to actually want to be committed to a person, you have to WANT to be there, and in a relationship it can't only be one person. So yes, sometimes you have to label things, you have to know where you're at and where things are going, only the two of you, no one else has the need to be involved, but you have to know. If they're not going where you want, get the hell out of there, because it will become worse, because you will get attached, because it will become harder to leave. So don't do it at first, let things flow for the first few dates, but be sure of what you want because putting yourself at the end is not gonna get you anywhere. Be sure of what you want, always. It is one thing to be flexible, but another thing is changing your ideals completely for a person who will not put you in a place in their life where you want to be, or who will label you with a category you don't want.